There’s no excuse for sexual abusers
I wish to reply to “Disgusted citizen” (March 11) regarding the case of incest that occurred since 2000.
For your information, sexual abuse is not something most victims wish to discuss openly even with the closest of their relatives.
For the victims, it is a painfully embarrassing ordeal.
And in this case, the daughter’s trust had been betrayed by someone whom she thought she could rely on – her own father.
You could not even imagine what goes through the victim’s mind when this trust is betrayed.
They are confused and in most cases do not know how to react.
Yes, it was fortunate the mother reported the matter.
If she had not done that, the shameful incident would have continued.
The victim was probably too scared or confused about what was happening.
There are thousands of people out there who are still keeping quiet about their situations.
And I believe they are not to blame.
We teach our children to be wary of strangers but we do not do that with their own father, mother, aunts, uncles or grandparents.
Most sexual abuse is done by people who are close relatives or carers – people who have been placed in positions of trust.
It saddens me to know that there are people out there who would think the same as “Disgusted citizen”.
How can you justify what the father or any sexual abuser has done to their victims?
There is never an excuse for these people.
And they should be penalised heavily for betraying the trust placed upon them.

Victim sympathiser, Via email
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