Loneliness ‘destroying’ marriages

ADULTERY destroys a lot of families due to loneliness, lack of sexual intimacy and communication between partners in a marriage, says a pastor.
“Adultery creeps into a family when the wife or the husband is lonely, sexual desires are not met and when there is no proper communication between them,” Pastor Peter Yambe said.
He was speaking during the Wantok Radio Light 6pm family life programme on Monday.
“Both men and woman go out and look for other partners and commit adultery when their needs are not met or being suppressed,” Yambe said.
“Loneliness is one of the main factors that causes a partner to go out and look for another.”
Yambe said loneliness happened when one partner gave more time to work, friends, habits and other interests, and less attention his or her partner.
Yambe said God never wanted people to be lonely in the beginning when He created Adam and Eve.
“Loneliness was never God’s idea,” he said. “He does not want the woman or the man to be lonely in a marriage.
“Genesis 2:18 says: ‘The Lord God says it is not good that the man should be alone, I will make him a help mate’, there is no place for loneliness here.”
Yambe said loneliness killed marriages, relationship, and caused a lot of divorces in marriages today.
“Gensis 2:24 says: ‘Therefore, a man shall leave his parents and live with his wife and they shall be one flash’,” he said.
“This means the man and woman in the marriage are glued together physically and mentally as one forever.”
Yambe said if a husband was required to travel on a business trip for more than three weeks, the government, company or the agency he worked for must pay for the wife’s travel fee so they both could travel.
“I challenge the Government to change the policies that if a married man or women is to travel on duty, they must accommodate the wife or the husband,” he said.
“A couple must try to communicate and understand each other and try to satisfy each other’s needs because marriage is a forever commitment until death.”
He said poor communication destroyed marriages as well.
“Complication in communication in marriage leads to divorce,” Yambe said.
“Problems in the family must be solved as unsolved problems dissolve a marriage.
“Every day problems must be solved as unattended problems force partners to grow apart.”